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“Thank you to all at A Home Away”

Friday, April 2nd, 2010

From our hallway guest book, March 10, 2010

John and Jane – I feel so much gratitude toward both of you.Thank you for the lifelong lessons I have learned.

Geri – My favorite moment was playing follow the leader out on the road ? “Very good very good yay!!!”

Sharon – Loved Yoga! Thanks for listening and providing me with encouragement during our group walks to the lake.

Art – Thanks for sharing your wisdom!!

Casey – Interesting and engaging theories that make sense.

Jim – Thanks! Had lots of fun drumming and singing.

Sabrina – I am thankful for the great sleeps I had after your massages.

Rene and Brandon – Great Chefs!! Thanks for the food prep and cooking lessons.

Henry and Elena – Thanks, I appreciated your warm smiles.

Cocoa (aka Monkeybum) = UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

Forever Grateful,

L.J.,  Kelowna

Cocoa, springtime in rehab, A Home Away Retreat

Departing guest shares gratitude for A Home Away

Wednesday, March 31st, 2010

To John and Jane,

For your generosity and thoughtfulness:

Thank you so much for all your love and support through my stay. Coming to A Home Away is the greatest, most rewarding thing that’s happened in my life. I will stay close and use my experience here as a stepping stone to a new life with endless possibilities.

You two have saved my life, and are two of the most powerful people I have ever met!

Love:

your friend, C.K., Calgary

A Home Away Retreat, Kelowna, BC

Looking forward to Easter Sunday Dinner

Tuesday, March 30th, 2010

Hi Jane!

Thank you so much for the invite, I just happen to be having an Easter Dinner on Saturday night this year so I would LOVE to be able to attend yours.

Let me know a good time to stop by….. visits to a Home Away are so good for my soul, I love it!

BJ – Celebrating 4 years of continuous sobriety this July!

Easter Sunday will be a celebration of God’s grace and abundance, new life and second chances. We are blessed to have at least 3 former guests  join us, as well as Casey Gryba and his lovely wife Char. Casey and Char are part of the family, and we are lucky to have their continued love and support. Watch for the menu, and photos.

Easter 2008, A Home Away

A Home Away’s good friend, Don. We miss him and feel grateful to have been part of his life.

Easter Bunnies, 2008, A Home Away Retreat

Easter Bunnies joyously awaiting their share of this gorgeous cake. Easter, 2008

Easter Message from Alumni: Walking softly on this earth.

Monday, March 29th, 2010

Dear AHA; John, Jane, Cocoa and Guests,

I find myself in reflection today, of my time at A Home Away.  Grateful and humble.  My journey thus far, is not at all what I ever imagined and for this, I am thankful.

When I left A Home Away earlier than I had imagined, I had a choice to make.  I could zero in on what I had learned or I could throw it all away.  I am happy to say that I am approaching 90 days on Easter Monday.  Somewhere in my mind it feels like an irony and yet in my heart, I know and believe it is MY message from God.

On Saturday morning I heard a friend in a meeting say ‘If you wanna make God laugh, tell him your plans’.  Later that day, I read Jane’s message on the blog which stated, ‘If you wanna make God laugh, tell him your plans’.  Twice in one day???  How is this possible, I chuckled to myself.  I hear God’s messages everyday, but this one, well it made ME laugh.  Today, with gratitude, I am reminded that God’s message is sometimes loud and clear!!  Sometimes, subtle…  Like the Phoenix rises from the ashes, I am risen everyday.

I wish you all, another 24!!

Please feel free to share.

Sincerely,

KE

Beautiful BC Lake, A Home Away Retreat

Alumni Celebrates One Year of Sobriety! Read how he did it.

Monday, March 22nd, 2010

Staying sober, a day at a time for 365 consecutive days is nothing short of a miracle. At A Home Away we see miracles every day. Today one showed up in the inbox, and we are thrilled to share it here. This person took the Good Orderly Direction that was offered and has followed through.  Congrats SG. You deserve it :)

Hi John and Jane.

Just a note to let you know that I am still ok and celebrating my one year birthday today.  When I think of where I was and the company I kept exactly one year ago yesterday, I can only shake my head at where I was.

I have worked through one full set of steps with a sponsor and while I did not find them “amazing” or anything (particularly step nine, my amends were met with colossal indifference actually) they were worthwhile for insight among other things.

I go to two, three or four meetings per week depending on the week and this I find to be the most helpful.  Relating to others’ experience has always been important to me, generally providing meaning to life. Relating to others with the disease is even more important as it keeps my recovery front and centre at the same time allowing me to acquire more experience of humanity in general.  I believe that acceptance (people, places and things and that I am an addict) is a very important part of the foundation of my recovery.  I don’t even have to play the tape through anymore, nine hours ahead is quite enough to keep the healthy fear close by.  My addict is much quieter that it was in early recovery and my emotional up and down is much quieter as well.  For these among other things I am grateful.

I remember the day that the obsession lifted.   It was April 2 at a Home Away.  Sitting on the deck when a small eagle flew by.  I think it was Aesop fable day. Nice.

I trust you are both well and not too challenged by some of the guests that have crossed your path in the past year.

All the best,

SG

One Year Sobriety Medallion, A Home Away Retreat

Breathing Easy ODAAT for 93 days! Thanks!

Friday, March 12th, 2010

Dear Jane and John,

I haven’t been here lately but something always draws me here!!  Today it was this posting.  I am so grateful that I don’t wake up every day reaching for my cigarettes.  I no longer have a cloudy head, smelly clothes, an empty wallet or countless minutes of my precious time wasted away with a cigarette in my mouth.  These things were all a part of my life for 28 years.

Thanks to the Breathing Easy group that John leads and the amazing support of the other guests and staff at AHA, I have now not had a cigarette for 93 days!  I feel FABULOUS!! I feel healthier than I ever have.

Love to you all!
PJH

Breathing Easy Fresh Air, A Home Away Retreat,

Breathing Easy

Message of Gratitude from former guest.

Friday, March 12th, 2010

John and Jane,

I can’t thank you enough for everything AHA gave me. I’m becoming at peace with myself more and more. Its an awesome feeling.

Hope all is well at home, I’m calling it my home because i was reborn there :)

Give my best to the guests, let them know that I am thinking of them. Especially LJ and TR as I know they are ‘medallioning out’ today. Wish them luck from me, they are in my prayers.

Take care, lots of love,

DE

Former Guest hears sobering story in the 12 Step Rooms

Friday, March 12th, 2010

Dear John and Jane,

Thanks guys for your words of encouragement. It helped me to focus on what is really important!! I also received another reason for gratitude in the rooms today. A very young man was there. A week ago his best childhood friend died of an overdose. The two were sharing an apartment. Both were using. The young man heard his friend choking and gasping but did nothing to help because of his own state of mind. The next morning he found his friend dead. He was beside himself with guilt and remorse.

Thank God that didn’t happen to me during the years I was drinking. I too could have shown such poor judgment that it harmed somebody else. There but for the “grace of my higher power, go I.”

I’ll keep hanging in there ODAAT.

I’ll let you know about the Round Up next week.

Love, GF

Reflections from a true friend

Friday, March 5th, 2010

Excerpt of comments from Ross Leckie:

A close friend operates a centre for addiction treatment in Kelowna, British Columbia, called A Home Away. There John and his wife Jane host those who seek escape from the grip of alcohol, drugs, and other addictions. They offer various forms of therapy, help people to claim a spiritual discipline, bring them to places of healthy lifestyle choices and introduce their ‘guests’ to the support of regular 12-step meetings that will always be available wherever their home is.

It can be a rather risky business as the intake ‘ebbs’ and ‘flows’. And working with people with addictions has its challenges. Sometimes people think they are ready to change their destructive habits, but if they are not, then probing of inner demons can lead to adverse behaviour. Some people take flight before the agreed 42 day treatment and make threats and accusations when “their” money is not refunded.

Just the other day, John returned rather ‘downtrodden’ from consulting a lawyer about a person who has threatened to extort money from them and made slanderous threats. Thankfully the next item of the afternoon was much more gratifying-a heartwarming ceremony of departure for a woman returning to eastern Canada to begin a new life after facing up to her challenges with alcohol, drugs, and an eating disorder.

I think it must be like that for Jesus. His life must be a roller coaster of emotion. He celebrates with us in the times of joy and success and new understandings. He holds us in the depth of our despair and failure and his heart aches in tune with ours.

One of the guests from A Home Away returned to Vancouver last week. This is a portion of a letter she wrote:

I wanted to share with you my story from last night (Sunday). We (husband, son, daughter and I) headed over to Vancouver on Saturday morning to take in some of the Olympic hype. The energy was amazing, an experience I am grateful to have been a part of. We took in the Norway, Switzerland men’s hockey game. International sporting events are amazing, such patriotism!

Anyways, when I got home on Sunday I wanted and needed to go to a meeting. I looked up on the internet where the Sunday night meeting was and headed out. I arrived at the Baptist Church only to find a church service…No AA meeting! A gentleman saw me in the hall looking confused. He told me that there is no meeting there on Sunday nights, but I was welcome to come in for the service…so I did. My point being, I took the opportunity that God had put in front of me for a meeting.

Guidance was presented to me in a different light and I accepted. The old me would have sworn and cursed that things didn’t go “my way” and left in a tizzy. I am very grateful for the experience, and I might even go back next Sunday! I did find out at the noon meeting today that the meeting has changed locations.

Read Ross’ full message.….

skiing with friends

Alumni approaching 4 years of sobriety expresses gratitude

Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010

Rose in front of Tranquility Koi Pond, A Home Away Retreat

One Day at a Time, We Do Recover

Submitted on 2010/03/01 at 11:56pm

Hi John and Jane,

It seems as though time has flown by once again since I have stopped in to say hello. I often stop in here to read others’ experiences and it warms my heart to know how much healing starts at a Home Away.

My life changed the day I met John Derry, and almost 4 years later I think about that day often. What I didnt realize before I came to A Home Away was that each and every day I made the choice to continue on the path of addiction that I had been on. I had convinced myself that I didn’t have any other option, I was what I was.

I was physically and spiritually empty when I walked through your doors, but that first day John gave me hope. He let me know that I did have a choice. During the time I spent at A Home Away, I learned to love myself again, I learned to believe in a power greater than myself, and in my particular case, I learned that it was OK that I wasn’t perfect. It was ok to need help in life regardless of what challenges we face.

I left A Home Away armed with knowledge, hope, and very importantly, the tools I needed to continue my journey of healing and self discovery. Of these tools, very important to me was learning the value of one addict helping another. I stay in contact with A Home Away and other addicts through meetings and friendships developed over time. The path was not always easy, nor smooth, but I always kept something that someone at A Home Away said to me at the front of my mind… ‘There is not a problem in this world that I can make better by having a drink’.

To those just starting their journey at A Home Away, everything that you want to accomplish is possible… if you want it, it is there…

God willing, in June of this year I will celebrate my 4th birthday, also my 4th anniversary of the day I came to A Home Away. There have been tougher days, and easier days, but each of the 1344 days of sobriety have been taken one day at a time.

I would really like to say thank you once again for all you have given, to not only me, but to my loved ones as well.

I have been blessed with a miracle, and for that I am thankful.

Thank You John and Jane.

With Love,

B.J., Kelowna